What To Do If You Are Being Stalked

There are a number of things you can do to keep yourself safe if you believe you are a victim of stalking:

  • Trust your instincts. Don’t downplay the danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.
  • Take threats seriously. Danger is generally higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.
  • Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or a domestic violence or rape crisis program such as Valley Crisis Center at 209722.4357.
  • Develop a safety plan like the one found on victimsofcrime.org or check out this, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay, and having a relative or friend go places with you. Also, decide in advance what to do if the stalker shows up at your home, school, work, or somewhere else.
  • Don’t communicate with the stalker or respond to attempts to contact you.
  • Keep evidence of the stalking. When the stalker follows you or contacts you, write down the time, date and place. Keep emails, phone messages, letters, or notes. Photograph anything of yours the stalker damages and any injuries the stalker causes.
  • Contact the police. Every state has stalking laws, here are California’s.
  • Get a court order.
  • Tell family, friends, roommates, and coworkers about the stalking and seek their support.